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Friday, July 30, 2010

How to bully-proof your struggling students

During the move to our new building, our office plant broke in half. I was heartbroken, but I put the broken half of the plant into a container of water with the hope that the plant would grow new roots. For the first few snowy months, nothing happened. No roots. Then, spring came and the weather started warming up. Seemingly overnight, my struggling plant was thriving, and all because the conditions were finally right. My plant had to be comfortable before he could really start to grow. So what does a plant have to do with bullying?

Like plants, students need the right conditions to really send out their roots and start growing. Unfortunately, many students hold back because they don’t feel comfortable in the classroom. One of the big reasons for this is bullying. Bullying can happen to any student, but English learners, struggling readers, and students with disabilities can be especially vulnerable because they may feel out of place or have low self-esteem. Luckily, you don’t have to wait for a weather change to banish bullies and strengthen your struggling student.

Signs of bullying

How can you tell if a student is being bullied? In addition to teasing or harassment from other students, here are some other signs to look for.

  • Choosing to withdraw or separate from other students.
  • Staying close to the teacher or other adult during breaks.
  • Being excluded by other students, such as being picked last in team games or eating alone at lunch.
  • Shyness and having difficulty speaking up in class and seem anxious or insecure.
  • Showing deterioration in school work.
  • Making excuses to avoid interacting with peers.
  • Showing a loss of appetite.
  • Appearing tired because of trouble sleeping.

Ways to bully-proof your students

Bullies most often victimize students with low self-esteem. One of the best ways to bully-proof your students and help them feel comfortable in the classroom is to build their sense of self worth. Try these tips for building students’ self-esteem.

  • Greet students at the door each morning and give them praise or say something positive. Be sincere! This will help students see the classroom as a safe and positive place.
  • Be as observant of good behavior as you are of bad behavior. Constructive criticism is important, but make sure you also acknowledge and reinforce effort as often as possible.
  • Give specific praise instead of general praise. This reinforces good behavior and gives students something concrete to build their self-esteem on.
  • Call each student’s parent or guardian to give praise. This will help to develop a positive connection between home and school.
  • Post students’ work. Posting work can show students that their work is just as valuable as the work completed by the other students in the class.
  • Give students a safe environment to practice skills. Bullied students can be shy and unwilling to speak up in class, so supplemental one-on-one instruction is important for practicing new skills.

For more tips on bolstering students’ self-esteem, look here.

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6 Comments:

  1. Good article. For teachers, SEL (social / emotional learning) is a great program, especially when implemented in grade school. It can really help develop empathy and interpersonal communication skills. For parents of bullied children, I can recommend an excellent course called “The Total Bully Solution” by Adam Blum
    http://www.totalbullysolution.com

    • Brenda said...

      Thanks for the input! Bullying is such an important issue. It’s good to have resources for parents and teachers.

  2. Shar said...

    bullying can be so hard to deal with. having a list of things to look for is so helpful for teachers AND parents. now i’m curious to find good tips on helping the kids who are the bullies to have more positive interactions with their peers.

    • Brenda said...

      I was actually thinking the same thing! I definitely think a two-part effort to address the issue would be best– identifying and helping the bullied students AND identifying and helping the bullies. There are so many complex reasons why students become bullies, but I’m sure there are tips that can help teachers and parents reach out to at least some of them. I’ll look into that!

  3. Lisa said...

    Thanks for the tips. Such an important topic right now. In addition to Shar’s question (tips for bullies on NOT bullying), I’d be interested in how to bully-proof kids on the social media front.

    • Brenda said...

      I was reading a lot about bullying in the social media as I was researching this, actually. I think the same things can help students on the social media front as well– strengthening their self-esteem and such. Some schools have a mandatory suspension policy for students who are caught engaging in cyberbullying. But social media is so pervasive and so hard to police. So far, my sister has just kept her teenage and preteen children from having access to social media sites to keep them away from the possible dangers, including bullying. Social media can be such a powerful tool, though, that it seems a shame to have to exclude students from it. I’ll definitely keep reading up on this issue.

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